By default
A default is a “pre-selected option.”
It is what the system gives you when you don’t specify an alternative.
The popular culture–that is to say, the culture in which you live–has its default definitions for:
Freedom.
Happiness.
Love.
Power.
Security.
Success.
Wealth.
The essential practice of Christianity is to daily challenge those cultural defaults…and replace them with alternatives that are beautiful, humane, true to life.
God can reveal those alternatives to you.
But only you can choose them.